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Adult Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers"

 Some books don’t just speak to you, they speak for the version of you that had to stay quiet for far too long. "Adult Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers" is one of those rare, healing companions. Stephanie Kriesberg writes with such clarity and compassion that readers who have lived under the emotional shadow of a narcissistic mother will finally feel truly seen, not as the “problem,” not as the “too sensitive” one, but as a human being deserving of tenderness, peace, and self-trust. Below are seven transformative lessons this book helps us internalize; slowly, gently, and powerfully. 1. Understanding the emotional inheritance Kriesberg explains how narcissistic mothers often make affection conditional; praise comes when you perform, criticism arrives when you show independence. Recognizing this emotional blueprint is the first step in rewriting it. The book validates that your mother’s inability to love emotionally was never your fault. 2. Why the “good daughter” role feels ...

How To Avoid Being Manipulated

 When I was a child, the world felt simple and full of magic. I believed in the honesty of a friend, the safety of strangers, and the fairness of life itself. Every promise was sacred, every gesture sincere. But adulthood has a way of stripping away that innocence. We learn that not everyone is trustworthy, that intentions can be hidden, and that people can manipulate reality to serve themselves. How To Avoid Being Manipulated by Nancy Noble reminded me that while the world can be complicated, we can equip ourselves with the tools to navigate it without losing our sense of clarity and agency.   Noble’s book reignites that sense of personal power through a careful blend of practical advice, psychological insights, and real-world storytelling. It is at once a guide and a mirror, helping readers see the subtle ways influence and control operate, while showing how to reclaim control over one’s own mind. The book’s strength lies in its accessibility; it is neither dry nor over...

Those Who Live Without Discipline, Die Without Honor by Modern Arjuna

 Those Who Live Without Discipline, Die Without Honor by Modern Arjuna is a philosophical and motivational guide that argues for the paramount importance of self-discipline as the foundation for a meaningful, successful, and honorable life. Drawing inspiration from ancient wisdom, particularly the Bhagavad Gita (where Arjuna is a central figure embodying duty and striving), the book posits that true freedom and fulfillment are not found in the absence of rules, but in the deliberate cultivation of inner order and unwavering commitment to one's higher purpose. It dissects how a lack of discipline leads to wasted potential, regret, and a life lived by default rather than design. Conversely, it illustrates how embracing discipline—in thoughts, habits, actions, and character—empowers individuals to overcome challenges, achieve their goals, build integrity, and ultimately live a life that earns respect and honor, both from others and from oneself. The book serves as a call to action to ...

EQ Intelligent

 FOREWORD Not education. Not experience. Not knowledge or intel-lectual horsepower. None of these serve as an adequate predictor as to why one person succeeds and another doesn't. There is something else going on that society doesn't seem to account for. We see examples of this every day in our workplaces, our homes, our churches, our schools and our neighbor-hoods. We observe supposedly brilliant and well-educated people struggle, while others with fewer obvious skills or attributes flourish. And we ask ourselves why? The answer almost always has to do with this concept called emotional intelligence. And while it is harder to identify and measure than IQ or experience, and certainly difficult to capture on a resume, its power cannot be denied. And by now, it's not exactly a secret. People have been talking about emotional intelligence for a while, but some-how they haven't been able to harness its power. After all, as a society we continue to focus most of our self-imp...

Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man

 Here are 10 lessons from "Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, Expanded Edition" by Steve Harvey, providing in-depth insights and reflections on each lesson. 1. Understanding Men’s Mindsets In "Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man," Steve Harvey emphasizes the importance of grasping how men think when it comes to relationships. He argues that men often prioritize different values compared to women, such as respect, independence, and the desire to be problem solvers. For example, Harvey points out that men may view relationships through a lens of challenge and conquest, meaning they often appreciate the thrill of pursuit. Understanding these mindsets is crucial for women, as it allows them to communicate effectively and set realistic expectations. By recognizing that men might not always express their emotions in the same way, women can adjust their approach to foster better communication and connection. 2. The Importance of Setting Standards Harvey asserts that setting ...

13 Things Mentally Strong Women Don't Do

 Here are 10 lessons from "13 Things Mentally Strong Women Don't Do: Own Your Power, Channel Your Confidence, and Find Your Authentic Voice for a Life of Meaning and Joy" by Amy Morin, expanded in great detail for a deeper understanding: 1. They Don’t Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Themselves Mentally strong women recognize that self-pity is a trap that can prevent them from moving forward. Instead of dwelling on their circumstances or feeling victimized, they consciously choose to take responsibility for their lives. This means acknowledging their emotions, but then shifting their focus to actionable steps. For example, if faced with a setback, rather than wallowing in disappointment, they might ask themselves, “What can I learn from this?” or “How can I turn this situation into an opportunity?” This proactive mindset fosters resilience and encourages a growth-oriented perspective, allowing them to navigate life's challenges with greater ease and confidence. 2. They Do...

HỒI KÝ CỦA MỘT ĐỨA TỰ HỌC HÀNH TRÌNH 6.5 LÊN 8.0 IELTS

 HỒI KÝ CỦA MỘT ĐỨA TỰ HỌC HÀNH TRÌNH 6.5 LÊN 8.0 IELTS Chào các bạn, mình vừa thi máy ngày 22/12/2019 ở IDP, được Overall 8 (trong đó có Write 7.5 và Speak 8.0). So với nhiều bạn khác mình không phải xức xắc gì, cơ mà bài này mình mạn phép chia sẻ cách mình học tiếng anh nói chung và luyện IELTS nói riêng. Mình chỉ chia sẻ những gì mình làm và có hiệu quả với mình, một đứa chronic procrastinator và chỉ tiếp thu tốt qua lỗ tai. Phần đầu sẽ nói về việc tăng trình độ tiếng anh nói chung, phần tiếp về việc luyện thi ielts nói riêng, và phần cuối về việc đi thi và 1 số tips. Trước hết, có 3 ý mình muốn nói: 1/ Không có secret sauce cho việc học ngoại ngữ hoặc tăng overall band score, chỉ là mình 90% là say mê + luyện tập và 10% là kiến thức (some of which mình sẽ chia sẻ phía dưới). Để luyện tập mà có tiến bộ thì bạn phải có commitment (trách nhiệm & quyết tâm). Và mình commit bằng cách học thêm và tự học với partner. Kiến thức thì đầy trên facebook ấy, khi bạn chưa có ý định thi I...