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The emotional intelligent

 greeted Butch Connor as he stepped out of his truck and onto the sands of Salmon Creek Beach. It was the first day of a long holiday weekend, and a perfect morning to grab his board and head out for a surf. Most of the other local surfers had the same idea that morning, and after 30 minutes or so, Butch decided to leave the crowd behind. He penetrated the water's surface with long, deep strokes that propelled him away from the pack and over to a stretch of beach where he could catch a few waves away from the crowd. Once Butch had paddled a good 40 yards away from the other surfers, he sat up on his board and bobbed up and down in the rolling swells while he waited for a wave that caught his fancy. A beautiful teal wave began to crest as it approached the shoreline, and as Butch lay down on his board to catch the wave, a loud splash behind him stole his attention. Butch glanced over his right shoulder and froze in horror at the sight of a 14-inch, gray dorsal fin cutting through th...
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It’s OK That You’re Not OK.

 I found this book during a time when the world felt like it had been bleached of all color. I was dealing with a loss that felt less like a "sad event" and more like a physical amputation. People kept coming at me with clichés—"everything happens for a reason," "they're in a better place," "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger"—and every time they spoke, I felt like I was being shoved further into a dark hole. I was browsing the "Grief" section of a bookstore, feeling insulted by titles that promised "five easy steps to healing," when I saw those five simple words: It’s OK That You’re Not OK. I didn't even read the back. I just carried it to the counter like a life raft. I expected a gentle, soft-spoken book that would hold my hand and tell me that if I just did enough "grief work," I’d be back to my old self by Christmas. I thought Megan Devine would give me a roadmap to "closure"—that myt...
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Children exposed to constant criticism often develop a hyperactive stress system

 Children exposed to constant criticism often develop a hyperactive stress system, making it harder for them to feel safe, calm, or confident. Neuroscience shows that repeated negative feedback activates the brain’s fight or flight pathways, especially in regions still forming connections for emotional regulation. Over time, the nervous system stays on high alert, expecting threat even in neutral situations. This heightened stress response increases cortisol and overstimulates the amygdala, which interprets tone and emotion. When criticism is frequent, the brain begins wiring itself around danger signals. Kids may become anxious, withdrawn, perfectionistic, or quick to shut down not because they are sensitive, but because their biology is adapting to survive emotional pressure. Healthy development requires a balance of guidance and connection. Supportive communication strengthens prefrontal pathways that help children manage emotions, solve problems, and feel safe enough to grow. E...
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Never Stay Broke

 Many people struggle with money—not because they don’t work hard, but because they lack a system, mindset, and habits that build lasting wealth. Never Stay Broke by Joseph Rutakangwa is a practical guide that addresses the root causes of financial instability and provides actionable strategies to take control of your money. Rutakangwa blends personal finance principles, mindset shifts, and real-life examples to show that financial freedom is not about luck—it’s about consistent choices, discipline, and thinking strategically. If you’re ready to stop living paycheck to paycheck and start building real wealth, this book is a must-read. 7 Lessons from Never Stay Broke 1. Your Mindset Determines Your Financial Reality. Rutakangwa stresses that wealth begins in the mind. A “scarcity mindset” keeps people trapped in cycles of debt and dependence, while a mindset focused on opportunity, growth, and resourcefulness leads to financial progress. The lesson: think like someone in control of ...
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I Had to Raise Myself

 There are people who grow up knowing they can rely on others, and there are people who learn very early that they can’t. I Had to Raise Myself is written for the second group. Mara Ellison’s book explores what happens when a child’s emotional needs are consistently ignored, dismissed, or made to feel like a burden. Not through dramatic storytelling or exaggerated claims, but through clear explanations of how emotional neglect and narcissistic parenting quietly shape the way adults think, relate, and survive. The book’s central message is direct: many of the struggles people carry into adulthood are not personal weaknesses, they are learned responses to growing up without emotional safety. Rather than focusing on blame, Ellison focuses on understanding. She explains why people who were emotionally unsupported often become hyper-independent, overly responsible, afraid of conflict, or deeply unsure of their own feelings. Most importantly, she shows how these patterns can be unlearned...
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Adult Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers"

 Some books don’t just speak to you, they speak for the version of you that had to stay quiet for far too long. "Adult Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers" is one of those rare, healing companions. Stephanie Kriesberg writes with such clarity and compassion that readers who have lived under the emotional shadow of a narcissistic mother will finally feel truly seen, not as the “problem,” not as the “too sensitive” one, but as a human being deserving of tenderness, peace, and self-trust. Below are seven transformative lessons this book helps us internalize; slowly, gently, and powerfully. 1. Understanding the emotional inheritance Kriesberg explains how narcissistic mothers often make affection conditional; praise comes when you perform, criticism arrives when you show independence. Recognizing this emotional blueprint is the first step in rewriting it. The book validates that your mother’s inability to love emotionally was never your fault. 2. Why the “good daughter” role feels ...
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How To Avoid Being Manipulated

 When I was a child, the world felt simple and full of magic. I believed in the honesty of a friend, the safety of strangers, and the fairness of life itself. Every promise was sacred, every gesture sincere. But adulthood has a way of stripping away that innocence. We learn that not everyone is trustworthy, that intentions can be hidden, and that people can manipulate reality to serve themselves. How To Avoid Being Manipulated by Nancy Noble reminded me that while the world can be complicated, we can equip ourselves with the tools to navigate it without losing our sense of clarity and agency.   Noble’s book reignites that sense of personal power through a careful blend of practical advice, psychological insights, and real-world storytelling. It is at once a guide and a mirror, helping readers see the subtle ways influence and control operate, while showing how to reclaim control over one’s own mind. The book’s strength lies in its accessibility; it is neither dry nor over...
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