5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life
I kept making excuses for about some persons. They were charming. Until they weren't. They were generous. Until you owed them. They were your biggest fan. Until you disagreed with them. I spent years explaining away their behavior. "They're just passionate." "They had a hard childhood." "They didn't mean it like that." "I'm being too sensitive." Every time I tried to set a boundary, I got a lecture. Every time I expressed a need, I got a guilt trip. Every time I stood up for myself, I got punished, with silence, with criticism, with a carefully crafted narrative in which I was the villain and they were the victim. I thought I was the problem. I went to therapy. I read relationship books. I tried harder to communicate, to be patient, to be understanding. Nothing changed. Then I read Bill Eddy's 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life, and someone finally gave me language for what I was experiencing. The problem wasn't my...